Week 35: Marriages and Caring for an Aging Parent
Please join us this week as we pray for couples who
are the primary caregivers for an aging parent. This life-situation can
turn life on its head as roles are reversed and the children become the parents
and the parent the child. At best this situation can be awkward; at worst
is can lead to serious conflicts. A parent, who has had a lifetime of
making decisions, now has children making decisions for him/her. These
can be small decisions (“Dad you should not climb that ladder”), to
life-style-altering decisions (“Mom, you can’t drive anymore).
Caring for an aging parent can also limit the
freedom of the couple. It can mean giving up travel plans, changing
long-established schedules and learning that the old “spur-of-the-moment” event
now requires planning. All the decisions that come with caring for an
aging parent can also put the couple at odds with siblings who have different
ideas about what is best.
Additionally, if the parent’s health deteriorates,
financial stresses can crop up and time demands can increase because of
numerous doctor visits and treatment appointments. Finally, if the
parent’s care becomes too complex or physically demanding for the couple, they
will often struggle emotionally with the decision of turning over the care of
their parent to a third party.
Please pray that these couples will
- Find joy in caring for the ones who have cared for them
- Experience a strengthening of their marriage as they share in the grace of care giving
- Graciously support each other when the need arises for one to spend time away from their relationship to care for a parent
- Have a gentle, understanding and loving attitude as roles reverse
- Succeed in balancing the demands of family life and the needs of their aging parent
- Have healthy and open lines of communication with siblings concerning the care of their parent
- Seek the wisdom of God and His peace as they make difficult and realistic decisions concerning the parent’s care
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