Week 46: Marriages and Breast Cancer
Please join us this week in
praying for marriages dealing with the tragedy of breast cancer. Although cancer of any kind can create
stressful situations for marriages, breast cancer does so uniquely. It strikes the wife at the heart of her
self-image and worth. Many
sufferers experience an emotional roller coaster that can cause their spouse to
receive conflicting signals. One
moment a wife may long to be held and touched yet at another moment, or maybe
even at the same moment, withdraw from physical contact. The husband, on the other hand, who
does not understand this dynamic, can become confused when his touch is
rebuffed or his reserve is interpreted as uncaring.
Like with other cancers, the
physical battle of fighting breast cancer is draining and demanding, on the
patient particularly but also on the spouse. Almost without fail, the physical stresses of enduring
radical treatments and of caring for the patient create emotional stresses and
emotional stresses make enduring the physical even more difficult. This vicious cycle is extremely hard on
even the best marriages and can be devastating to those marriages that are
already unstable.
Add all this to the challenges
breast cancer brings to a couple’s physical intimacy and it is no wonder that
an estimated 25% of marriages facing this disease don’t survive.
Please pray that couples
facing this disease will
- Experience the deep and abiding peace of God
- Love each other and cling to each other as never before
- Seek to understand the complex physical and emotion dynamic of this disease
- (For the patient) Help her spouse understand her ups and downs and forgive him when he doesn’t
- (For the caregiver) Rise to the level of selfless caring his wife needs
- (For the caregiver) Express frequently his endless love and unchanging desire his wife
- (For the caregiver) Overflow with compassion, long-suffering and tenderness
- Embrace each other, physically, emotionally and spiritually
- Seek help and support from those who have experience with this disease
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