Week 149: Marriages and the Chronic Illness of an Adult Child
Please join us this week in praying for marriages
living through the chronic illness of an adult child.
The emotional stress of this life situation is not
lessened because a chronically ill child is an adult. Parents don’t cease
to be parents because a child is grown. For a number of reasons the
stress can actually be greater than it would be if the child were a dependent.
Usually an adult child and his/her parents live in
separate households and often are separated by a geographical distance that
makes care-giving difficult and just staying informed a challenge. Also,
the fact that an adult child has established a level of independence can cause
parents to question what care is expected, desired or would even be accepted.
In ideal situations in which the child-parent
relationship is good, the parents’ marriage can still be strained as they take
on time-consuming care-giving, such as care of grandchildren and medical
transportation, or even financial assistance at a time when they themselves may
be on a fixed income.
If the child-parent relationship is unstable or
totally fractured, the parents’ marriage can be challenged in a different way
as they deal with the guilt of not being able to help because of the relational
distance.
Please prayer that these couples will
- Seek the peace only God can give
- Discuss the nature of the care they can give and agree to make the necessary sacrifices together
- Seize the opportunity to heal fractured relationships
- Be granted extraordinary strength, patience and perseverance as they take on additional responsibilities
- Know when they as care-givers need help and be willing to ask for it
- Be surrounded and supported by those who care for them and know their situation
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