Praying for Marriages (PfM)

Please join us this week in praying for marriages that have grown emotionally cold.  Emotional coldness in a marriage can be as destructive as rage and is more insidious.  Rage is like a fire that ignites and is immediately recognized as damaging.  Emotional coldness, or emotional distance, as some would call it, is like freezing weather, uncomfortable for sure, but too often not identified as damaging until frozen pipes start to break. The growth of emotional coldness in a marriage can have its origin in any number of situations.  Excessive attention to children to the determent of that to a spouse can cause a marriage relationship to cool.  The same can be said of excessive attention to work, to a hobby or, yes, even to a ministry.  Discounting the need to give and ask for forgiveness to a spouse can also be the seed-bed of emotional coldness. Being unaware of how a spouse expresses his/her emotions can cause one to miss cues that...

Please join us this week in praying for marriages dealing with the tragedy of breast cancer.  Although cancer of any kind can create stressful situations for marriages, breast cancer does so uniquely.  It strikes the wife at the heart of her self-image and worth.  Many sufferers experience an emotional roller coaster that can cause their spouse to receive conflicting signals.  One moment a wife may long to be held and touched yet at another moment, or maybe even at the same moment, withdraw from physical contact.  The husband, on the other hand, who does not understand this dynamic, can become confused when his touch is rebuffed or his reserve is interpreted as uncaring. As with other cancers, the physical battle of fighting breast cancer is draining and demanding, on the patient particularly but also on the spouse.  Almost without fail, the physical stresses of enduring radical treatments and of caring for the patient create emotional ...

Please join us this week in praying for marriages that have suffered the excruciating pain of the death of a newborn baby.  In past weeks we have called on you to pray for those who have had a child to die as well as for those who have suffered the painful disappointment of a miscarriage.  Many of the issues experienced by couples that have faced those tragedies are also common to those who have lost a newborn. The circumstances of this particular tragedy can be quite varied.  In some cases the death has been long expected and to some degree prepared for because of prenatal testing.  In other cases the death is totally unexpected but comes quickly after birth.  And yet, in still other situations, the newborn’s death, though almost a medical certainty, is delayed for days or even months. One of the hardest things about infant death is the sudden and absolute reversal of emotions.  Joyful expectation is usurped by gut-wrenching sadnes...

Please join us this week in praying for couples that have been disowned by their children.  The nature and causes of fractured family relationships are varied, complex and rarely one-sided.  The division can be the choice of the parents or the child/children.  Regardless, the division is always painful to someone, if not to everyone. One variety of fractured family relationships is when children disown their parents.  The impetus for this separation can be rooted in bad parenting choices or in the equally bad choices of adult children.  In either case, the painful effects the division has on the disowned couple can be a challenge to the very existence of their own husband/wife relationship. If the estrangement from their children is the result of bad parenting choices, particularly if those choices were those of one parent (for example, an absentee father or an overly protective/smothering mother), the other spouse may harbor resentment ...