Week 230: Marriages and Breast Cancer
Please
join us this week in praying for marriages dealing with the tragedy of breast
cancer. Although cancer of any kind can create stressful situations for
marriages, breast cancer does so uniquely. It strikes the wife at the heart
of her self-image and worth. Many sufferers experience an emotional roller
coaster that can cause their spouse to receive conflicting signals. One
moment a wife may long to be held and touched yet at another moment, or maybe
even at the same moment, withdraw from physical contact. The husband, on
the other hand, who does not understand this dynamic, can become confused when
his touch is rebuffed or his reserve is interpreted as uncaring.
As
with other cancers, the physical battle of fighting breast cancer is draining
and demanding, on the patient particularly but also on the spouse. Almost
without fail, the physical stresses of enduring radical treatments and of
caring for the patient create emotional stresses and these emotional stresses
make enduring the physical challenges even more difficult. This vicious cycle
is extremely hard on even the best marriages and can be devastating to those
marriages that are already unstable.
Add
all this to the challenges breast cancer brings to a couple’s physical intimacy
and it is no wonder some number of marriages facing this disease don’t survive.
Please
pray that couples facing this disease will
- Experience the deep and abiding peace of God
- Love each other and cling to each other as never before
- Seek to understand the complex physical and emotion dynamic of this disease
- (For the patient) Help her spouse understand her ups and downs and forgive him when he doesn’t
- (For the caregiver) Rise to the level of selfless caring his wife needs
- (For the caregiver) Express frequently his endless love and unchanging desire for his wife
- (For the caregiver) Overflow with compassion, long-suffering and tenderness
- Embrace each other, physically, emotionally and spiritually
- Seek help and support from those who have experience with this disease
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