Praying for Marriages (PfM)

Please join us this week in praying for marriages that are dealing with the death of a child. Maybe nothing feels as abnormal and as out of the natural order as a child preceding parents in death. No parent expects it and no premarital counseling equips couples to deal with this emotionally-charged occurrence. Though a child’s death can occur suddenly and without warning or after a prolonged illness, the end result is still a precious gift is gone. The effects of this loss can be devastating, even to the strongest marriages. Married couples experiencing such a loss may never deal with a more difficult grief since this grief is often accompanied by guilt, even when there are absolutely no grounds for it.  Groundless guilt is exceedingly hard on individuals since there is no wrong to correct and no blame for which to seek or give forgiveness. It is a guilt without relief, and unrelieved guilt can be extraordinarily hard on relationships. One of the m...

Please join us this week in praying for teenage marriages.  For mature couples, getting started on the right foot in a marriage is difficult. Starting a marriage well when both spouses are teenagers is even more difficult. Issues can arise as a simple matter of lack of maturity or life experience. Many times these young couples have not had the chance to face problems as independent adults and, consequently, have not developed the skills to deal successfully with some of the trials of married life. Even in a perfect situation, just making the transition from dependent teenagers to an independent married couple can be extremely challenging. Single teenage friends can have expectations of the new couple the spouses should no longer fulfill because their marriage now takes priority. The pressure to be a part of the old group in the same old way can tempt the new couple to make decisions harmful to their relationship. Another situation often faced by teen c...

Please join us this week in praying for marriages facing retirement. Retirement, whether the retirement of one or both spouses, can be a significant stressor in a marriage. Even when the retirement is a free choice and comes at a planned time, it creates changes in schedules, changes in relationships and changes in routine. All these changes, even when desired, carry some level of stress. When the retirement is forced by an employer or ill health or comes at an inconvenient time (like when retirement savings have taken a plunge), the stress can be even greater. Some level of discomfort in a marriage at retirement time is often experienced just because many people just don’t handle change well, even positive change. Change means unknowns and unknowns create fear in many people. A fearful spouse or a fearful couple does not bode well for marital harmony. And of course we have all heard of occasions when someone has eagerly anticipated retirement only to be diss...